Why this site exists
The SableBuddy Universe manifesto
When I was a child, my parents took me to doctors. My mom was worried: I couldn't stand still. I constantly rocked, swung my leg, moved my hand. Even now, falling asleep, I almost always move my leg.
My mom was lucky to meet a truly competent doctor. He looked at me and told her: "Don't touch her. That's how she thinks."
That is probably one of the most important sentences of my childhood.
People stopped trying to remake me. Instead, they started organizing the environment around me. Yes, I still forgot things. Yes, I got distracted. But nobody considered me bad, lazy or stupid for it. I was helped to learn to live with the brain I have.
Back then, nobody talked about ADHD the way they do now. There were different diagnoses, different ideas.
Now imagine the same child today
First, her mom gets thoroughly scared. Then she watches a few reels and starts recognizing her child in literally every one. Then she is told: "Here is the solution. Buy it." Pills. Supplements. Courses. Guides. Checklists. Yet another "signature system".
It makes me angry.
ADHD is a broad spectrum of traits. Every person has some individual traits from this spectrum, so almost anyone recognizes themselves in at least one video. But a diagnosis is made by entirely different criteria. "I forgot my keys", "I sometimes get distracted", "I love starting new things and dropping them" — and you are already somebody's target audience. That is exactly why this topic is so easy to monetize.
That is why every skill on this site is free
Honestly, I don't even consider them something unique to ADHD. Yes, some things especially help people with this neurotype. But here is the interesting part: most of these principles work great for absolutely everyone.
Look at the Toyota system, at TPM, WCM, the 5S principles. What is sold today as "ADHD productivity secrets" has been described there for decades. Every thing has its place. The environment is organized so that a person doesn't make mistakes. Visual cues do the work. Unnecessary actions are removed. Human error is analyzed to change the system — and nobody gets blamed.
These principles work in manufacturing. They work just as well at home.
I am not a psychiatrist and not a psychologist. I treat no one and diagnose no one. There are situations where medication is truly necessary — and that is a conversation with a doctor.
What is here
Here I collect, for free, the skills that help to live:
⚡ Activation and braking — how to start when you can't start, and how to stop when you're stuck in hyperfocus.
🎯 Focus and chaos — attention, forgetfulness, lost things and the chaos around you.
🎢 Emotions and energy — energy swings, burnout, emotional rollercoasters.
🗣️ Communication — conversations, boundaries, requests and conflicts.
🪤 Cognitive traps — 20 ways our brain deceives us, and why it does that.
🧭 Emotions map — how to recognize an emotion and understand what it is signaling.
And if these skills turn out to be useful not only for people with ADHD but for everyone — all the more reason not to hide them behind a paywall.